A Better Way To Talk To Yourself

Psychology Today magazine revisits the topic of self-talk & how it impacts our mental health in the May 2015 issue. We already know that what we say to ourselves makes a meaningful difference in terms of how we feel. What's new is the notion that how we refer to ourselves also matters as well. While it might feel a big awkward to refer to yourself in the third person, it might actually be incredibly useful to drop the pronouns in favor of our own names.

"How people conduct their inner monologues has an enormous effect on their success in life. Talk to yourself with the pronoun I, for instance, and you’re likely to fluster and perform poorly in stressful circumstances. Address yourself by your name and your chances of acing a host of tasks, from speech making to self-advocacy, suddenly soar. 

When dealing with strong emotions, taking a step back and becoming a detached observer can help. It’s very easy for people to advise their friends, yet when it comes to themselves, they have trouble. But people engaging in this process, using their own first name, are distancing themselves from the self, right in the moment, and that helps them perform.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201505/the-voice-reason?collection=1073568

Our Love For Harm OCD

Clinical psychologist Debra Kissen & I have something in common - we both love working with "Pure-O" OCD, particularly a subtype known as "Harm OCD." In this post, she articulates what it is that's so exciting to work with from our perspective as well as what to do if you are someone suffering from these types of intrusive thoughts.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/debra-kissen/harm-related-ocdthe-terro_b_6648582.html

Bounce Back From Any Setback

Polly Campbell, author of Imperfect Spirituality, writes & speaks on resilience & personal growth. Here she's put together the 5 steps for bouncing back from setbacks. It's pretty simple when you boil it all down, though simple isn't the same as easy. Still, knowing what to do is the first step.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/imperfect-spirituality/201502/5-ways-bounce-back-any-setback?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

9 Panic Attack Myths

Even though panic attacks are an incredibly common experience, they are surrounding by several common misperceptions. And it's not just those who've never had a panic attack that are misinformed. One of the best coping skills for dealing with panic is understanding what's going on & not fueling the fire with false information. Take a read & see how many myths you might be buying into.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/29/panic-attack-myths_n_6509750.html

Simple Tips For The Worried

Short on time? Long on worry? Psychology Today has 4 quick tips you can follow to learn how to worry more realistically. We're going to worry from time to time, so make it worth your while!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201402/tip-sheet-what-me-worry?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Do You Have A Case Of FOMO?

FOMO. It means Fear Of Missing Out. And while not an official DSM 5 diagnosis, it is very much a fear that can induce a great deal of anxiety & depression. Therapists & authors Linda & Charlie Bloom have created list of 10 tips for overcoming FOMO over at Psychology Today.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201501/10-ways-overcome-fear-missing-out?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Why OCD Is So Miserable: A Reporter's Perspective

Science reporter David Adam chronicles his struggles with OCD & his fear of contracting HIV in this new book that explores the realities of the disorder as well as evidence-based treatments. To learn more, check out this interview with David on NPR.

http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2015/01/12/376438311/why-ocd-is-miserable-a-science-reporters-obsession-with-contracting-hiv

Scheduling Mindful Worry Time

Paul Jozsef, Director of The Mindfulness Space in Australia, has put together a helpful set of instructions for how to practice mindful worry time as a way to manage excessive worry & anxiety. While it seems counterintuitive to purposefully plan time to worry when worrying is a problem you're trying to decrease, it actually makes quite a bit of sense once you understand the rational. Check it out & try it for yourself!

http://mindfulnessspace.com.au/mindfulness-resources/articles/mindfulness-and-scheduled-worry-time

Empathy & Social Anxiety. So Sensitive It Hurts?

Results from a new study indicate a possible connection between social anxiety & a strong sense of empathy. On one hand, an empath can pick up on others' discomfort & absorb it as their own. On the other, they can easily imagine what others may be thinking or feeling, leading to increased worry about what exactly those thoughts might be in regards to themselves. Either or both could lead to feeling anxious in social situations. So if you're feeling that anxiety, it might not be that there's anything "wrong" with you, but that you possess an incredible ability to know others.

http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/new-study-links-social-anxiety-to-being-empath/

10 Ways To Stop Judging People

It's easy to judge others from the comfort of our own selves. Ultimately though, we only cause ourselves more stress & suffering when we get in the habit of casting judgments. Luckily, like any habit, it can be broken. Here's 10 ways to start seeing people non-judgmentally.

3 Ways To Deal With A Difficult Person

Dr. Christine Carter shares 3 simple ways to deal with the difficult person (or people) in your life. Bear in mind, simple doesn't always mean easy...


"How come your family knows how to push your buttons?
Because they installed them."


http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/raising-happiness/201412/3-simple-ways-deal-difficult-person?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Breathing With Awareness: An Anxiety Coping Skill

Leo Babauta shares some simple instructions on How To Breathe in order to get through difficult emotional moments. No fancy tricks or techniques here. Your body was made to breathe all on its own. Your mind just needs to start paying attention.

 

http://zenhabits.net/breathe-in/