A Little Pause Goes A Long Way

Over at Buzzfeed, Nathan Pyle nicely illustrates with some simple visuals the often over-looked  importance of pausing before speaking. It's a simple habit we could probably all stand to benefit from. As a visual thinker myself, this handful of images will stick in my mind the next time I'm talking to someone else.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/nathanwpyle/this-is-why-i-pause-before-i-speak?bffb&utm_term=4ldqpgp#.agz8w0ANE

10 Ways To Stop Judging People

It's easy to judge others from the comfort of our own selves. Ultimately though, we only cause ourselves more stress & suffering when we get in the habit of casting judgments. Luckily, like any habit, it can be broken. Here's 10 ways to start seeing people non-judgmentally.

3 Ways To Deal With A Difficult Person

Dr. Christine Carter shares 3 simple ways to deal with the difficult person (or people) in your life. Bear in mind, simple doesn't always mean easy...


"How come your family knows how to push your buttons?
Because they installed them."


http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/raising-happiness/201412/3-simple-ways-deal-difficult-person?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

21 Ways To Just So "No"

It's just a little word, two letters, and yet saying "no" to others can be one of the most challenging  things to get out of our mouths. Dr. Christine Carter, sociologist, happiness expert, & Senior Fellow over at the Greater Good Science Center has come up with 21 ways to say no. So, surely you can say yes to at least one of these strategies. 

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/21_ways_to_give_good_no

10 Things To Know: Autism & Romantic Relationships

"A lack of social skills does not mean a lack of interest in socializing."

This excellent blog post from a 21 year-old awareness-raising Aspie in Yorkshire, who provides 10 very important insights to keep in mind when it comes to romantic relationships on the autism spectrum

 

http://seeingdoubleautismawareness.wordpress.com/2014/10/21/ten-things-i-wish-everyone-knew-about-autism-and-romantic-relationships/

Married To OCD

Dr. Monnica Williams, Director of the Center for Mental Health Disparities in the Department of Psychological & Brain Sciences at the University of Louisville, suggests thinking about OCD as the "third person in a marriage" - causing difficulties for both the person with OCD & the person married to them. 

When OCD shows up, the best thing a couple can do is present a united front against it. Both people need to learn what OCD is, how it works & how to challenge it. It's can be hard, but ultimately worth it.

 

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/culturally-speaking/201303/help-i-m-married-ocd

Sex Dreams & What They DON'T Mean

Dr. Nerdlove, giver of excellent advice, breaks down what it means when we have sex dreams about people we aren't in a relationship with. Those dreams, which can be both exciting & disturbing, are simply our brains doing what they do. Just like thoughts, dreams don't have to mean anything. Sex dreams are only a problem when we decide to make them a problem.

"This is something that a lot of people get wrong about monogamy: 
being in a monogamous relationship means that you choose not to have sex with other people;
it doesn’t mean you won’t want to. And that desire for other people? 
That is entirely, perfectly and utterly 100% normal. 
It doesn’t mean say anything about the strength of your relationship,
the depths of your devotion or how happy you are.
It just means that you’ve got a libido and your libido is doing what libidos do:
perking up whenever someone who hits your buttons comes by."

http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2014/09/ask-dr-nerdlove-want-people/

Introverts Don't Always Want To Be Alone. Or Do They?

As a hardcore introvert myself, it can be hard to admit that people need people. But if I'm really being honest, I know it's (probably) true. Sophia Demling makes some good points in her essay about introverts needing people - mostly about the ways in which we need them. 

I agree with her that all the recent introvert-love being expressed on the internet has largely focused on "WE JUST WANT TO BE ALONE." However, my take on it is that that aspect has been emphasized because our extravert-oriented culture seems to view this want as some sort of mental defect, or at least a mentally unhealthy practice. 

As with many things, it's all about knowing yourself & striking the right balance. 

What do you think?

 

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-introverts-corner/201408/why-introverts-dont-always-want-be-alone