Imposter Syndrome: Have You Mastered The Art Of Pretending?

Ever felt like you were an imposter of sorts? Like at any moment you'd be "found out" & exposed for the fraud you believe you are? If so, you aren't alone. Imposter Syndrome is a phenomenon many people, especially women, experience in some aspect of their life. Julie Zhuo shares her experience of realizing she was a member of this group as well as the 3 tactics she uses to combat the invisible imposter inside.


"You don the disguise long enough & you can't even recognize that you are acting. That you are behaving inauthentically, from a place of fear & insecurity. That you can't figure out how to reconcile the real you with the pretend you. Because nothing is more important that not being found out as a fraud."

 

https://medium.com/the-year-of-the-looking-glass/the-imposter-syndrome-9e23e2326d88

A Better Way To Talk To Yourself

Psychology Today magazine revisits the topic of self-talk & how it impacts our mental health in the May 2015 issue. We already know that what we say to ourselves makes a meaningful difference in terms of how we feel. What's new is the notion that how we refer to ourselves also matters as well. While it might feel a big awkward to refer to yourself in the third person, it might actually be incredibly useful to drop the pronouns in favor of our own names.

"How people conduct their inner monologues has an enormous effect on their success in life. Talk to yourself with the pronoun I, for instance, and you’re likely to fluster and perform poorly in stressful circumstances. Address yourself by your name and your chances of acing a host of tasks, from speech making to self-advocacy, suddenly soar. 

When dealing with strong emotions, taking a step back and becoming a detached observer can help. It’s very easy for people to advise their friends, yet when it comes to themselves, they have trouble. But people engaging in this process, using their own first name, are distancing themselves from the self, right in the moment, and that helps them perform.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201505/the-voice-reason?collection=1073568

Bounce Back From Any Setback

Polly Campbell, author of Imperfect Spirituality, writes & speaks on resilience & personal growth. Here she's put together the 5 steps for bouncing back from setbacks. It's pretty simple when you boil it all down, though simple isn't the same as easy. Still, knowing what to do is the first step.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/imperfect-spirituality/201502/5-ways-bounce-back-any-setback?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Simple Tips For The Worried

Short on time? Long on worry? Psychology Today has 4 quick tips you can follow to learn how to worry more realistically. We're going to worry from time to time, so make it worth your while!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201402/tip-sheet-what-me-worry?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Do You Have A Case Of FOMO?

FOMO. It means Fear Of Missing Out. And while not an official DSM 5 diagnosis, it is very much a fear that can induce a great deal of anxiety & depression. Therapists & authors Linda & Charlie Bloom have created list of 10 tips for overcoming FOMO over at Psychology Today.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201501/10-ways-overcome-fear-missing-out?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Are You Living Too Small?

Dr. David Sack gives us 5 signs that indicate we might be living our lives "too small." 
Odds are, at least one of these is something we're doing, consciously or not. Start 2015 by making a conscious effort to live larger.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/where-science-meets-the-steps/201411/5-signs-you-re-living-too-small?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

10 Ways To Stop Judging People

It's easy to judge others from the comfort of our own selves. Ultimately though, we only cause ourselves more stress & suffering when we get in the habit of casting judgments. Luckily, like any habit, it can be broken. Here's 10 ways to start seeing people non-judgmentally.

Sleep, Not Screens

While it's generally becoming understood that light-emitting screens can cause problems when it's time to go to sleep, we're just now beginning to realize the longer-term impact that may come when we take our screens to bed with us. The chronic suppression of melatonin has been linked to increased risk of various cancers, obesity & diabetes.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2014/12/22/ipads-tablets-smartphones-disrupt-good-sleep-study-finds/

3 Ways To Deal With A Difficult Person

Dr. Christine Carter shares 3 simple ways to deal with the difficult person (or people) in your life. Bear in mind, simple doesn't always mean easy...


"How come your family knows how to push your buttons?
Because they installed them."


http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/raising-happiness/201412/3-simple-ways-deal-difficult-person?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Self-Talk: Saying Is Believing

NPR released an article today reviewing the science behind our self-talk & how our internal representations of our selves don't always match up with the external presentations. Most interesting is how shifting our self talk from using "I" statements to using our own names can provide some helpful distance that allows our inner critics to be less critical. Try it & see if you notice a difference!

http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/10/07/353292408/why-saying-is-believing-the-science-of-self-talk

Curiosity Doesn't Kill. It Helps You Live.

Over at Psych Central, Margarita Tartakovsky shares the power of curiosity & 3 simple strategies for staying curious for life. 
 

"For many of us, as we start getting older, we lose our appetite for curiosity. And yet curiosity is powerful. It adds color, vibrancy, passion and pleasure to our lives."

 

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/09/06/the-power-of-curiosity-3-strategies-for-staying-curious/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=facebook